Sooo, I’m in two separate writer’s groups. I love the feedback from the men in particular. Not that I don’t love and value the critiques I get from my kindred women-folk. It’s just that men and women write VERY differently and the male perspective intrigues me.
Women may say “turned” whereas, a man will often say “swiveled.”
Men generally don’t write touchy feely, but they sure notice when women do. I can almost see my writing partners make faces when reading some of our womanly words. Especially when we pen our male MCs.
One writer in particular–you know who you are–will trounce on us gals to man-up our protags. He has in innate “feminine” radar when it comes to dialogue. And don’t get me started on our apparent inability to write a male’s thought process.
I usually end up in stitches while reading his comments to our manuscripts. And I also end up a better writer.
Yet the adage, “a good man is hard to find” holds true in both life and writing. For some reason, we, of the softer gender, tend to outnumber our male counterparts by a bajillion to one. Or maybe it’s just that women are more apt to seek help and support whereas men tend to go solo. Whatever the reason, I feel blessed to be part of two groups boasting male memberships.
How do you think dual-gender writing groups can be beneficial? Do you think some genres require this more than others? Why or why not? Have you participated in writer’s groups with mixed species? If so, share your most valuable cross-gender writing tip with the rest of us.
Curious minds want to know.