Feel my rash.
My DH’s brother cracks me up with his idosyncracies of the oral language. We are all guilty of mixing up our words and saying something we never intended to say.
The written word is even more difficult to decipher accurately due to the lack of body language and inflection. Yet writers continue to engage in written warfare on the web.
Wrath is expressed in haughty emails after a rejection by an agent. It can be found in dissenting comments on blog posts. Forums are rife with wrathful expressions by frustrated or angry writers.
Whenever we open our mouths, in real time or metaphorically, we run the risk of offending someone important. A particularly nasty comment about African, Jewish book writers ten years ago can, and does, crop up in an agent’s google search. Too bad for us that Dream Agent hails from Nigeria and has Jewish grandparents.
The whole purpose of being a writer is to sell material. To agents. To editors. To the reading public. We cannot do so if we continue to engage in verbal warfare. There is a way to express opinions appropriately. Slandering others on the internet is not the way to do so. It will alienate readers and garner instant rejection by those in the know.
Write with care. What you say can potentially affect people you like, trust and respect. The feelings will not remain mutual if you can’t keep your slander to yourself.
Write with respect. Don’t diss people, even if you disagree with them. Rather, disagree with the comment, the method or the point of view.
Do not engage in heated debates in public places. These biting words will come back to haunt you–and your potential book.
If you can’t say something nice…
Well, you get the picture. Play nice in the publishing sandbox and others will play nice with you.
How do you combat the urge to shoot off a surley message? What are some ways to control your temper while still fighting the good fight?