Category Archives: Real Life

The Aroma of Reading

I wish computers had scratch and sniff screens. If they did, I’d let you smell my coffee. Long story short, I used to Hate the bitter, black water. In fact, I didn’t start drinking it until about three years ago. My relationship with coffee began with chai tea in the mornings with Dear Hubby. That is, until shipping it to our little wilderness outpost got to be an expensive pain in the rear.

Yet, the experience of sipping my tea on the deck in the wee hours of the morning before the kids got up for school and Dear Hubby trudged off to work was something I refused to give up. So I started drinking coffee. Or rather, I started drinking a splash of coffee in my creamer.

Today, I actually use more coffee than creamer. In part because Dear Daughter and I have started a love affair with flavored coffee. This morning’s brew: Toasted Pecan Kona Snickerdoo with hazelnut creamer. Yep, three coffees mixed together to create a drink that tastes like liquid Girl Scout Cookies.

Yesterday, we slurped down a pot of Double Caramel Chocolate Brownie. Who knows what delights tomorrow will bring.

Regardless, my house smells yummy, my taste buds are tickled, and you’re probably wondering what the heck coffee has to do with reading. It will come as no surprise when I say that a novel is exactly like a cup of joe.

Seriously, a well-written passage awakens the senses and stimulates the brain. Coffee–and great literature–is calming/exhilarating, and slightly addictive. It is also highly versatile with enough flavors, caffeine combos, and creamer options to keep even the pickiest drinkers happy. No two pots need ever taste the same.

Reading is similarly nuanced. It is personal and intimate, with each reader connecting to characters and plot lines on a different level and for a variety of reasons. Even reading the same story years later can taste as different as the first sip of the morning from the very last swallow of the day. Each drop–each word–in between should be savored for what it means at that moment.

Yeah, a good book is exactly like a mug of specialty java.

What’s brewing in your pot today? What books have you enjoyed recently and why? What’s next on your TBR list? Which books have grown with/on you over the years?

Curious minds want to know. In the meantime, I have a mug of coffee in one hand, The Light Between Oceans in the other and a rocking chair waiting outside.

Back to the Eighties

On Saturday, I loved the Eighties all over again.

IMG_8313_3Preparing for Rock of Ages at the Orpheum, I raided my Dear Daughter’s closet for a few things…

I only had to cut up one shirt and found all the funky jewelry in forgotten bathroom drawers.

Surprisingly, styling Eighties Hair is just like riding a bike–with a blow dryer, lots o’ hairspray and a comb.

The only thing missing was a bottle of Baby Soft perfume.

Rock of Ages was amazing, and I thank my wonderful sis for setting it all up, and the rest of my sisters (and Jessie) for donning Eighties attire with me.

Jean skirts and fish net stockings. Big bangs and lots of lace. Off the shoulder sleeves and multiple ear piercings. Leg warmers, crimped hair, layered polo shirts with the collars popped and pinned pants…

Yeah, what wasn’t to love?

Besides the rockin’ music, what was your favorite part of the Eighties? Who’s your favorite Eighties rock band/song? Movie?

Curious minds want to know.

P.S. I’m not really an Amazon. My 5’6″ just looks that way next to my pint-sized daughter.

Cheers and Jeers: the dichotomy within us all

A cool breeze blew across the track, scattering the boisterous laughter of our middle school runners. Eight fifth-grade girls settled into their lanes for the fifty meter dash. Behind them, another eight girls awaited their heat. Milling around were about twenty-five fifth grade boys, stretching their muscles for their upcoming race.

Two of the girls at the line were special education students.

As the runners prepared for the starting gun shot, a cheer cut through the other noises of this middle school track and field day. The fifth grade boys had raised their voices as one, chanting in unison, “Let’s go, Katy, let’s go!”

Listening to those boys honestly and openly cheer on two of their classmates who would typically get made fun of in most other public schools brought tears to my eyes and a hitch in my chest.

Later that night I confronted three of the boys who had been there. I told them I was proud of them and that what they had done was amazing. They shrugged nonchalantly, as if this public show of support was nothing. “We love Katy. She’s everyone’s best friend.”

That sentiment was not the case for a group of sixth grade boys. Earlier, I’d had the unfortunate experience of standing within ear shot of them. Instead of supporting the fifty meter dash runners, they were placing bets on whom would lose each heat.

“She’s too fat to run.”

“He’s so stupid. What a loser.”

“INSERT EVEN WORSE COMMENTARY HERE.”

Sadly, a few adults were sitting with the boys. Even more disturbing was the fact that some of them laughed along with the preteens and their completely unacceptable behavior. Heck, they may as well have been jeering right along with the kids.

This dichotomy reminded me of the keynote speaker at our Dear Daughter’s induction into Honor Society the week before. Highly paraphrased by me, the retired principal told the story of a Native American chief discussing the two types of wolves within us–the good ones and the bad ones.

When asked which wolf would win, the chief replied, “The one you feed.”

And so, you must ask yourself, which wolf do you feed?

Curious minds want to know.

COPPA for Kid Lit Writers

In today’s society, it is too easy to interact with virtual strangers. We share information like everyone in the world will keep our secrets and protect our innocence…just because it’s the right thing to do.

That’s not the case.

Books like Sarah Darer Littmans’s Want to Go Private? prove that the internet isn’t a safe place.

Because of scammers and predators and other sinister-minded cyber peeps, it’s a writer’s job to make interactions as safe as possible for their potential readers. In particular to children.

COPPA is an act that sets out to protect children and the information they provide on the web. If you engage with children under the age of thirteen via chats, websites, etc where you may either actively or passively gather information about them, you absolutely must educate yourself on COPPA and your responsibilities as a blogger or website owner.

Info about the Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act can be found at coppa.org.

As a parent, how do you protect your children from online issues? As a writer, what are you doing to protect those you engage with? Also, as a blogger, what types of info do you collect and what do you do with it?

Curious minds want to know.

A to Z: Dig Deeper

Words cannot express the pride I feel for one of my speech students. Tonight at Family Night, she earned a scholarship for summer speech camp–a thing she loves more than anything. Instead of accepting it, she relegated herself to fundraising for her tuition and passed the scholarship on to a fellow speechie she thought deserved it more.

I have to agree.

This other young lady unexpectedly lost her duo partner two weeks ago. Instead of giving up and calling it a season, she dug deep and prepared a whole new speech. Her second performance with this new speech just happened to be subsections. And she just happened to earn Fourth Place and will be moving on to Sections next weekend.

Never once has this young lady complained about her situation or said anything negative or hurtful about her duo partner. She’s stronger than that. Better than that. Digging deep is what she does. Luckily for those blessed enough to be around her, she taps right into her heart of gold.

Both these young ladies dug deep, and both are coming out winners.

Sometimes people ask why I write for kids. The answer is easy. I love them. I love all their quirks and whimsy. I love their intelligence and dedication. I love their ability to live in a grown up world while still occupying that magical realm of childhood. They amaze me each and every day, and they never fail to remind me that life is so much more than what you see on the surface.

Breanna and Lexi, you rock my socks off. All forty-four of my speechies, you rock my world. Because of you, I am a better person.

What have you learned from a kid in your life? If you work with them on any level, why do you do so? How do they inspire you to dig deeper within yourself?

Curious minds want to know.

 

Why I Write

My grandfather passed away on Saturday. He turned eighty-eight at midnight and left this world thirty minutes later. He was ready to go, which always makes things easier.

Over the years, I’ve been honored with penning poems for funeral programs. I’ve also had the joy of nudging marriages along with a handful of words. Each time, I write with the individuals in mind. Each poem or piece a testament to a specific person. A specific purpose.

My grandfather was a quiet man. Midwestern stoic. A hard worker. A provider. A practical man. He was the kind to show his care for others through actions, not words. And  yet, deep within this practical exterior was a soul of whimsy.

A welder by trade, he pieced together bits and scraps in his free time. Nails. Pop bottle tops. Cast iron skillets. In his work-worn hands, these every day items came together as miniature works of art.

The refrigerator magnets of my childhood were pop top skillets with two painted eggs frying inside. A beautiful nail rocking chair adorned my mom’s bookshelf, while tiny windmills captured the attention of guests. Just yesterday, a skillet clock passed hands from my mom to my little sister. All these and more were gifts from a quiet, unassuming man.

He took his business motto seriously: ”We weld everything but broken hearts and the crack of dawn.”

In life, he created. In honor of his life, I write.

 

WELDED BY LOVE

Love is not a parade of roses.

It’s a rocking chair,

thoughtfully presented

to relieve your weary load.

 

Love is not fancy dinners

celebrated on commercial holidays

rich with chocolate, wine and flawless diamonds.

It’s breakfast—two eggs, over easy—in a beat up frying pan.

 

Love is the breath of the wind,

spinning through windmill blades,

full of energy, passion and power.

 

It’s raw and untainted,

a hodgepodge of little things

not meant to woo,

but to comfort the soul

 

It’s a rough beard

and rougher hands

work-worn

and blackened.

 

Love is not fixing what is broken;

It’s never breaking it in the first place.

 

We weld everything

but broken hearts

and the crack of dawn.

 

Father,

Grandfather,

Grandpa,

Pops.

 

You welded more than you will ever know.

I write to give breath to that which may be forgotten. I write to teach, not preach. To soothe the soul with a balm of words made of hope and compassion. I write to give voice to those who cannot.

Why do you write?

Curious minds want to know.

Under Attack: Human Interactions

Dear Mr. FedEx:

When you climb out of your truck brandishing a large cardboard tube, my dog will feel attacked. Her hackles will raise, she will bark and she will definitely stand at attention, waiting for your next move.

When that bonehead move happens to be swinging your makeshift weapon and poking it repeatedly in her direction, she will charge you. Hello, she is under attack.

Yes, it is your fault–100%–that she does not like you on her property.

Lest you disagree, let’s look at this from a different angle–that of my garbage man who (questionably) provides a doggie treat to her before stealing my trash. He doesn’t attack, he bribes. She barks when his truck pulls up because she barks at every truck, but she doesn’t face off with the nasty trash man and lunge at him. Why? He doesn’t attack.

Taking this one step further, when the Schwans truck rumbles down the street, she races down the driveway and barks. Sound familiar? Yeah, same pattern. Now pay close attention…he gets out of the truck, meets her on the edge of the property (her collar prohibits her from going further) and coos sweet nothings in her direction while holding his hand down for her to sniff.

End result? She bounds around him, still barking, and escorts him to the door.

Let’s review:

  1. Three men in big, rumbly trucks: FedEx, Garbage, Schwans.
  2. Three different approaches: attack, bribe and befriend.
  3. Two different outcomes: counter attack and acceptance.

Sincerely,

The mother of the Dog Under Attack

Dear readers, how do you respond to events and people in  your life? What is the outcome of your interactions? Would you like to change your modus operandi for a more favorable result?

Curious minds want to know!

 

Proud to Be an American: Free Speech

I attended two Veteran’s Day programs today at our local middle and high school. I teared up both times. Taps nearly killed me with the haunting notes reverberating through the air in a reminder that our freedom has come at a steep price. (Thanks, ZP, you are a musical genius.)

We live in a country where we can openly express our opinions. Where we can actually talk with important people about important topics without fear of repercussions–physical, social or emotional. (Thanks, Mayor Ness, for the wonderful conversation between programs.)

I listened to two completely student-driven programs where students of all ages stood up and honored our troops of past and present with a passion, grace and articulation that would put many adults to shame.

Quite frankly, I am wowed by them.

Yet they didn’t succeed all on their own. Their freedom to speak openly was made possible by our veterans. I can only hope these youngsters will continue to honor these freedoms by exercising their right to speak loudly, honestly and passionately for the rest of their lives.

Thank you, Vets, for procuring this important freedom for your fellow citizens regardless of whether they support you or not.

And thank you, students, for supporting your hard-won freedoms by standing up and standing proud in an auditorium filled with your peers and community members. You truly rock!

And, of course, I couldn’t go through this whole spiel without asking every student of PAS who listened to the confidence of those speakers to consider joining speech.

Give voice to your passions, learn how to respect your rights and gain one of the most valuable life skills you can ever earn in your educational career. These courageous veterans fought so you could do just that.

See you at practice~

Dear readers, how do you feel about public speaking? Dear writers, are you comfortable enough in your skin to speak comfortably during book signings and interviews? If not, you may want to consider how to master this very important skill. If so, what tips can you share with fellow (potential) speakers to help ease their fears and set them on the path to verbal success?

Curious minds want to know!

Writing and Real Life Inspiration: One Leg at a Time

Another successful marching band season has closed for Dear Daughter. Likewise Middle Son’s football team finished the year with 1 loss. (Don’t tell anyone, but it might help that he has an ex-pro-football player as a coach.) Regardless, it was a busy Saturday for our little fam.

But it wasn’t the wins that inspired me. What impacted me far more than Dear Daughter catching her rifle after five mid-air rotations or Middle’s touch down on the last drive of the game was a young gal from another band.

She had a prosthetic leg from the knee down. And yet, she was out there on the field dancing, tossing flags and marching to the beat of the drums. All with a smile on her face.

Wow!

Remind me as a mom never to let my kids take the easy way out when they are pouting about someone getting more football passes than they got. Remind me as a writer never to let another person’s success get in the way of my own ability.

Writer’s block be damned. If a young lady can learn to toss a flag on one foot, I sure as heck can pen a few hundred words. And then a few hundred more.

Ohhhh, how easy it is to bemoan our writing rejections or to blame the wind for missing a tossed flag. Better that we give up and quit trying than to complain incessantly. Seriously, it gets old after a while.

Better yet that we should buckle down and move toward our dreams one step at a time.

I thank this young lady for silently reminding me of my blessings and my short-comings. May I do her justice in my daily writing life.

How about you? What events have inspired you over the years to be something or someone better? Please share your tales of standing tall despite the odds.

Curious minds want to know.

Some Days Are Like That


What are your writing woes? Your real life ones? What makes you grab your head in frustration when the rest of the world parties on? And more importantly, how do you pick up your tambourine and join in when that’s the last thing in the world you want to do?

Curious minds want to know!